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A 75-year Harvard study has revealed the most important factor in human happiness

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A 75-year Harvard study has revealed the most important factor in human happiness

Do you feel happy? Happiness has become something we started taking for granted. We think that the more we possess, the happier we become.

We pursue careers, money, and fame to feel happier, but the truth is that this kind of happiness has a very short lifespan and doesn’t contribute much to our lifelong dream to live a happy and fulfilled life.

So what do we need to be truly happy?

This question was something that Harvard psychologists have been working on for 75 years and the results are finally in. Robert J. Waldinger, the fourth director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, has revealed the three most important secrets to a long and happy life, and amazingly, they have nothing to do with money.

The study began in 1938 and it originally focused on 700 men from different backgrounds in their early to late teens.

The researchers regularly checked in with the participants every 2 years until old age and these check-ins still continue today for those participants that are still alive, while also adding their wives and children in the focus groups.

In his TED talk, Waldinger shares three very important lessons of what they discovered from the research:

The more socially connected you are, the better and happier life you will live

Waldinger points that social connections contribute to a happier, healthier and longer life. Living a life with people you can connect with, talk to and share your happy and sad moments means living a high quality life which will contribute to the long term happiness you have always wished for.

“It turns out that people who are more socially connected to family, to friends, to community, are happier, they are physically healthier and they live longer than people who are less well connected.” says Waldinger.

Opposed to social connection, loneliness brings the opposite effects. Loneliness can occur even when surrounded by people, even with a partner. This feeling mainly comes as a result of the quality of the relationships we nurture, which brings us to the second lesson.

The quality, not the quantity, of your relationships matters the most

“…The second big lesson that we learned is that it’s not just the number of friends you have and it’s not whether or not you’re in a committed relationship, but it’s the quality of your close relationships that matters.” says Waldinger.

Living in conflict with the people you spend your life with is very damaging for your health. High conflict marriages have turned out to be worse for a person’s health than a divorce.

In fact, the study tried to correlate the longevity of the participants to a point in their life and it turned out that a predictor for a long life could be found in their satisfaction from the relationships they had at age 50. Waldinger pointed that “the people who were the most satisfied in their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80.”

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Good relationships protect our brains as well as our bodies

Whether it’s a marital partnership or a positive relationship with a friend, family member or coworker, the key point of a good relationship is the ability to rely on the other person. Having someone to count on in times of need means having a healthier brain.

“The people who are in relationships where they really feel they can count on the other person in times of need, those people’s memories stay sharper longer…The people in relationships where they really feel they can’t count on the other one, those are the people who experienced earlier memory decline.” says Waldinger.

This kind of relationship based on trust and reliability doesn’t necessarily mean that it would be smooth all the time. Every relationship comes with ups and downs. The key element in these relationships is the the partners’ ability to rely on each other and feel protected.

So, next time you ask yourself what happiness means, try to think of the people you feel attached to, close to. Invest in your relationships, build them and nurture them.

Happiness comes from your connection with the people you love, trust and truly respect.

Originally Published by Curiousmindmagazine

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