Don’t let distance dictate your desire.
You know how the saying goes: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. That’s great, but fondness isn’t all it takes to keep the flame alive between you and your long-distance boo. The other half of the kindling? Sex. Which can obviously be hard to come by when you and your man don’t live in the same city, or even the same state.
But your sex life is not all-or-nothing. In other words, just because you aren’t getting busy on a regular basis, that shouldn’t stop you from keeping things hot while you’re apart. Try out these sexy long distance relationship ideas that will keep things ridiculously hot, no matter how many miles separate you.
SWAP PHONE CALLS FOR VIDEO CALLS
It’s great to hear your guy’s voice, but seeing him is even better. That might seem like a huge duh, but it’s often so much easier to chat whenever one of you has the time, like while you’re in line at the grocery store or driving to work.
Not the sexiest of environments. Even though video calls might require more scheduling, they’re worth it. “Many couples report that they feel more connected when they get to see their partner, as they’re engaging two senses—sight and sound—as opposed to just hearing their voice,” says Jessica O’Reilly, Ph.D., creator of the Sexual Pro Series Webinar Videos.
Plus, you’ll be alone, meaning your attention is 100 percent on each other. Bonus: You don’t have to wear any clothes. Naked dinner date? Naked dessert? You see where this is going.
SHOOT HIM SOME HOT TEXTS
A message with a few strategically-chosen emojis can be almost as hot as in-person dirty talk, since you’re getting him to fantasize about what he’s craving to do with you. Shoot him a text of what you’re thinking about or a sexy scenario you can’t wait to try with him next time you see him.
O’Reilly recommends using the app InTheMood, which is only connected to your partner, to avoid accidentally sending anything to other people in your contacts. And if you’re sending sexy photos, consider hiding your face or only sending close-ups of certain body parts so that you’re not identifiable. Besides, your man will appreciate any glimpse of you he can get. (Check out these sexting examples to get started.)
SEND HIM A SEXY GIFT
Receiving a surprise package is already fun. When it’s filled with naughty goodies? Even better. You can get creative with this based on what your guy likes, but O’Reilly has a few ideas. “You can send your partner something sexy for them to wear (or for you to wear as a teaser for your next meetup), or even an erotic book or a toy.” (Try sending him the Men’s Health and Women’s Health Big Book of Sex from the Women’s Health Boutique.)
You can also fill up the box with some non-sexy items that he likes just to show him that you’re thinking about him, she says. Then he can thank you for the package in person when you see him next.
CHOOSE DISTANCE-FRIENDLY SEX TOYS
Toys don’t have to be a solo-player experience just because you’re not together. Choose one that’s app-controlled, like the We-Vibe Jive, a vibator that your partner can control from the We-Connect app anywhere. Use it during your video sesh or make it more of a spontaneous pleasure by wearing it for the day under your clothes and letting your partner surprise you (it’s whisper quiet, so nobody will be able to tell.)
“Many couples who make an effort to have phone, text, or app-supported sex while they’re apart report that the sex is even hotter once they get back together, as they’re not out of practice and they’ve built anticipation over the weeks or months leading up to partnered in-the-flesh sex,” says O’Reilly.